Experts generally recommend that you wait about 4 to 6 weeks after childbirth before resuming sexual intercourse. Of course, the recommendation may be different if you have had a cesarean section or episiotomy. It's a good idea to check with your physician to learn what is best for you.

Waiting a few weeks gives your body a chance to return to its prepregnant state. It also allows stitches to heal and helps avoid the chance of infection. When your lochia (the discharge of blood, mucus, and tissue discussed in Uterus Care) disappears, it is an indication that the placental site has healed. This usually signals that you are physically ready to resume intercourse.

When you return to intimate relations, you may experience slight discomfort at first. With relaxation, lubricants, and tender loving care from your partner, the discomfort won't last long. If your vagina feels a bit too relaxed and open when you become sexually active again, ask your health care professional about exercises that may help increase vaginal tone.

Some women have a decreased interest in sexual relations following delivery. This is usually due to lowered estrogen levels and the physical and emotional demands of caring for a new baby. Your partner may also have a temporary decrease in interest after being part of the birth experience or because of fear of hurting you.

Remember that sexual intimacy can reduce tensions and help build a positive self-image. Intimacy also helps affirm that you are still attractive to your partner and even releases hormones that enhance your body's return to its prepregnancy state.